Dreading the Writing Assignment? Outlines to the Rescue

November 21st, 2008

Writing technical articles is a challenge. There you sit, surrounded by reams of research, notes and interviews. Where do you start?

Remember 5th grade English? You start with an outline.

Outlining has fallen on hard times lately. Mind mapping and brainstorming are much more fashionable. These techniques are great when generating ideas, but once you’ve got your ideas germinating you’ve got to outline them. Without an outline, your article will:

  1. Be an unstructured mess.
  2. Take three times as long to write.

Don’t let this happen to you – outline. If it’s been a while since 5th grade – or if your “progressive” school didn’t stoop to teach you actual English skills – let me remind you why it’s important and how to do it.

  • Outlining keeps you from writing an unstructured mess. Readers, especially American readers, prefer distinct sections in their media. For example, look at American screenplays. Movies invariably have three acts, and anything that doesn’t have them is considered an art film. Effective speeches often contain three parts, and readers like three points because the structure makes easier to retain information.

  • Outlining shrinks your writing time by a third to a half. How do you whittle down that pile of research notes and interviews into an article or white paper? You guess it – outline it. By assigning sections to your notes before you start writing, you’ll categorize, simplify and clarify. Not bad before you’ve even written an introduction. For example, let’s say you’re writing an article about mirroring. You can divide such an article into several different sections depending on what your client wants to get across. Here are some examples of different outlines:
    1. 1) Explanation of mirroring 2) Differences between local and remote mirroring, 3) Contrasting mirroring with other forms of replication, or
    2. 1) Define mirroring 2) List environments that require mirroring 3) Decision matrix for assigning different mirroring levels.

Once you’ve done your research it’s simple to assign pieces to different sections. Believe me, it’ll light a fire under your writing time.

Christine Taylor is president of Keyword Copywriting, which helps marketing and PR pros leverage their relationships with technology clients. E-mail her at chris@keywordcopy.com, call her at 760-249-6071, or check out Keyword’s Website at www.keywordcopy.com

Christine writes technical marketing communications for data storage, networking and pharmaceutical clients, including:

  • EMC
  • Commvault
  • Quantum
  • StoneFly Networks
  • Sybase
  • Maranti Networks
  • ClariStor
  • Fujitsu
  • AES
  • Obagi Medical Products

She specializes in trade journal articles, white papers, press kits and online content. She serves as a contributing editor to Computer Technology Review and acts as editor-in-chief for Storage Inc. and Storage Management Solutions.

Before moving into technical journalism and marketing she served 20 years in the IT trenches, including systems administration at Avery Dennison’s Research and Development division.

chris@keywordcopy.com

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Do You “Do” Voices?

November 21st, 2008

Do You “Do” Voices?
Copyright 2003, The Write Exposure

When you write an article, is it all about you? Your thoughts, your insights, your opinions, your voice? Or do you include other people’s voices in the form of interviews and research?

If your articles are nothing but a monologue, it’s time to start adding voices.

Voices make your piece more compelling. They make you look more knowledgeable. Plus, they’re visually appealing. “Readers love quotes,” says Marjorie, a freelance writer. “What’s more,” she says, “they impart texture. No two people talk the same way.”

How do you go about getting quotes? Here are some of the ways we do it at The Write Exposure:

Ask people you know. “Talk to customers, employees, and friends. Everyone likes to be quoted,” reports Daniel “what-are-you-writing-about-and-can-I-be-quoted-in-it” an accountant with The Write Exposure.

Ask people you don’t know. “After I’ve exhausted my network, I pull out the yellow pages,” Marjorie says. “I just start at the top of the listings and work my way down. I always find someone to talk to before I make call number six.”

Surf the Internet. “I love interviewing online,” Greg, a desktop publisher, says. “It’s quick and easy. You don’t have to worry about misquoting someone and it enables me to interview, like, someone in Bangladesh or Australia.”

Use a resource. “Lots of people like ProfNet.com, because it’s online,” David, a journalist, says. “But I prefer [the printed version of] The Yearbook because I can skim through it and something always catches my eye.”

Ask someone else. For myself, I often find all the leads I turn up doing research lead to more leads. The trick is to end each interview with a request for another source. “Who knows almost as much about this topic as you do?” or “Who has the worst argument for why you’re wrong?” often work well. Make sure you’re talking to people on both sides of the issue so that your article will be well-balanced.

Quotes are the spice for your piece. The, as Marjorie said, “texture.” They show you’ve done your research and that you’re not the only one who feels a certain way. They also add visual interest. In fact, some readers only read articles with quotation marks in them. So go to the trouble to find a few extra quotes. Your reader will appreciate it.

About the Author

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Dame Barbara Cartland ( 2 )

November 20th, 2008

In 1989 Barbara Cartland was the first person ever to appear twice on the famous television show ‘This is your Life’ Barbara Cartland has championed many causes and taken part in a variety of projects. She has been a County Councillor for nine years, drawn attention to the condition of Housing and Homes for the elderly and even had the law changed in order that Romany children should go to school. This was one of the most unpopular causes she had ever attempted but the provision of camps for Romany gypsies is down to Barbara Cartland. She helped set up fourteen county council camps in Hertfordshire and other counties followed suit. There is even a camp named after her – Barbaraville!

You might be tempted into thinking that Barbara Cartland lived in a fantasy pink world of imagination if it were not for the fact that she has achieved many great things. Her interests have been extensive and she has even written countless books and articles about health and encouraged the use of alternative medicine. In fact, Barbara Cartland answered 40,000 letters a year, of which, 30,000 were about health. She frequently wrote journals and reports about health products which was unpaid work. This is a lady who was very much ‘in touch’ with the modern world.

Barbara Cartland was awarded for Achievement by Prime Minister Chirac of France the honour bestowed upon her by the City of Paris in a country where over thirty million copies her books had been sold. Since this time the figure has risen to over sixty million.

Barbara Cartland always had a soft spot for Birmingham and visited it regularly for appearances on Pebble Mill and Birmingham radio stations. She gave many interviews to Birmingham newspapers and in particular the ‘Birmingham Post’ and she always said she was delighted to have been born in a great city and proud of everything that Birmingham had achieved.

Barbara Cartland touched so many lives. Our thanks go to Ian McCorquodale for providing us with his mothers final farewell – “How I want to be Remembered”, a document detailing her family history and an insight into her ninety six years which have been saddened by family tragedy and ecstatically happy through her love of her family.

Barbara acknowledges that she has been shown great kindness and also a certain amount of teasing and ridicule by the Press. However, according to her publishers she has produced 724 books, sold over a billion copies and entered the Guinness Book of Records as the best selling author in the World. Published in every country this amazing lady can afford to rise above those who might make fun of her. This marvellous woman is beyond ridicule and has no need to prove anything to anyone. The facts speak for themselves. Barbara Cartland is the most successful writer of romantic fiction of all time. And – she was born in Birmingham!

Barbara Cartland was an amazingly prolific author. When her books were selling so well in the late 1970’s, her American and English publishers came to her and asked for more Barbara Cartlands to satisfy the demanding audience.

She then doubled her output from 10 books a year to 20 books a year, and this at the age of 77! She kept this up, extraordinarily for 20 years, between the ages of 77 and 97. This is something that has never been achieved before by any author.

Eventually, even her publishers could not cope with her output and when she died in 2000 she left a legacy of 160 unpublished manuscripts which are now being published by her son, Ian, on the internet and by mail order, under the banner of the Barbara Cartland Pink Collection.

Will there ever again be a writer with such genius and prolific writing skills?

www.birminghamuk.com/barbaracartland.htm

About the Author

From the Community website of the West Midlands. Everyone Welcome.

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Competition is Good, Copying is Bad

November 20th, 2008

I’ve always been of the opinion that competition is a good thing. It encourages all of us to be better and make better products. While it might be true that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, copying someone else’s work is simply wrong.

We recently came across a competitor using our sales copy. The competitor was using a web graph showing the traffic on one of our sites, along with our sales copy to promote their competing application. Digging a little further, I realized that their competing application was, in both form and function, identical to our application. The competing program contained identical screenshots, custom program icons and our help documentation. While the code of the program was, in fact, different, it was clear that our copyright had been violated.

We are not the first company to have our copyright violated and once the initial emotional reaction passed, we took action.

Dealing With Copyright or Trademark Violations:

Who, What and Where
Before reacting, it is important to do homework and research the alleged content violator. Arm yourself with information. Determining the who, what and where will guide you in taking the appropriate steps.

Determine WHO is violating your copyright
Research the website: do a Whois lookup to determine the site’s owner. The domain owner can be found by entering the domain into http://www.whois.com and clicking on the link that says “Whois Lookup”. If the copyright on software has been violated, check the PAD file for the author and release date.

Determine WHERE the website hosting is located
Determine where the website is hosted. Web hosts located in progressive countries will be more cooperative in addressing copyright violations. After determining the webhost’s location, check the host’s Terms of Service (TOS) and Acceptable Use Policy (AUP) to determine the level of cooperation you will likely receive. More often than not, a physical address and detailed information on how to report an abuse claim will be found in the webhost’s terms of service.

Determine exactly WHAT violations have occurred.
When determining if a copyright violation has occurred, it is important to go back to the question of what constitutes a copyright violation.

Copyright is a form of protection provided by the laws of the United States (title 17, U.S. Code) to the authors of “original works of authorship.” This work can be literary, dramatic, musical, artistic, or similar intellectual works. Copyright protection is available to both published and unpublished works. It is illegal for anyone to violate any of the rights provided by the copyright law to the owner of copyright. It is important to note that ideas can not be copywritten, and while it may be morally and ethically questionable, cloning a software application is not a copyright violation, yet copying a helpfile is a copyright violation.

Copyright protection exists from the time the work is created in fixed form. The copyright in the work of authorship immediately becomes the property of the author who created the work. Only the author or those deriving their rights through the author can rightfully claim copyright. Evaluate the violator’s work to determine if text, graphics or any of the program or website’s artistic qualities are the same as your creative works. Print hard copies of any documents and save electronic versions of web pages and executables. Capture screenshots of offenses, save documentation or the Help file that contains any duplications of text. Enter the URL of the offending website into http://www.archive.org to see the website’s history and determine a timeline during which violations occurred. Look and feel can be subjective, try to focus on obvious or flagrant violations. Copied text or Help files is obvious when filing a complaint with web hosts or other third parties.

What is Next?
If you feel your copyright has, in fact, been violated there are a number of steps that you can take. Contacting third party service providers is a good starting point. Make a list of the providers with whom you can contact to report the violations.

1. Hosting
2. Online Ordering
3. If Software, Download Sites
4. Associations or Organizations

Aside from service providers, consider using existing relationships with parties who have a mutual interest or relationship with the other party. Often, knowing key people can result in a rapid response and increased dialogue with the purported offender.

Send simultaneous emails to each of the parties identified. Include details of the violation; using a PDF that displays screen captures or copies of text violations with website pointers is helpful. In the email, explain the action you wish to occur. If you want the web host to remove the website, say so. Also, ask that they keep you apprised of the situation.

In most cases you will receive responses from webhosts or registration services that require you to provide additional details so that the infringement can be investigated. It may seem obvious to the copyright holder, but the web hosts typically have a contractual agreement with their clients and are legally obligated to research any infringements before removing hosting or registration services.

Send a Cease and Desist letter and an email detailing that a copyright has been violated, include a reasonable deadline by which the offending copy or application should be removed. It is not necessary to provide the offender the details of the violation, as it is likely they are already aware of the offenses that have occurred. These actions will generally open a dialogue with the offender. If the offender ignores requests to remove the material that infringes on your copyright, pursue action with third party services. This will likely get the offender’s attention.

Artists, developers, and writers all work hard to create unique material and copyrights should be respected by all.

About the Author

About the Author:
Sharon Housley manages marketing for FeedForAll http://www.feedforall.com software for creating, editing, publishing RSS feeds and podcasts. In addition Sharon manages marketing for NotePage http://www.notepage.net a wireless text messaging software company.

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Case Of The Ex

November 19th, 2008

The ears I used to whisper to

The nose I used to pinch

The hands I used to hold

The hair I used to mess with

The arms that used to hug me tight

The smile I used to get

The voice I used to stay up just to hear

The heartbeat I used to dance with

The eyes I used to get lost in

The lips I used to kiss

The boy I used to love

The feeling I now regret

Source: www.isnare.com

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ARE YOU WRITING FOR A CHANGE?

November 18th, 2008

Whenever you reach one of those writer’s roadblocks, it helps to take
some time to reexamine what drives you to write in the first place.

I submit, however, that regardless of your reason(s) for being, or
wanting to be, a writer, or what kinds of writing you do, there is
only one, true underlying motivator that will consistently send you
back to your keyboard, or prompt you to pick up a pen, day after day:
through your writing, you must want to change something.

If you don’t, I believe you’ll remain stuck.

“No, I don’t,” you might say. “I write because I want to make
money.” That might very well be true. But think about it–*why* do
you want to make money as a writer? To leave your unfulfilling day
job? To supplement your income so that you can travel more, or
redecorate your house? To enable you to support your children
through college, or your parents during old age? Note that all of
these purposes for making money provide you with the fiscal ability
to make changes in your life, hopefully for the better. Change is
the goal, not money.

“Well, I write fiction. I write solely to entertain.” And what
happens to your readers if you succeed in entertaining them? You
make them feel–you get them to laugh, cry or wonder. You send spine-
tingling shivers of fear through them with your thrillers, warm them
with your romance stories, entice them with your mysteries, leave
indelible imprints on their memories with your characters. You
change your readers; how they think or feel after they have read
something you’ve written differs from how they thought or felt before.

Perhaps you write technical documents. In that case, you are looking
to improve a process by clarifying it. This means change.
Or maybe you write articles that provide readers with information
they did not previously possess. More change. Copywriters want to
change lookers into buyers. Grantwriters want to persuade people or
organizations to support an endeavor they may have never heard of
before. Business proposals are written with the hope of fostering
improvements within companies.

Do you confine your writing solely to your journal, or specialize in
first-person essays? What are you looking for when you write about
yourself, your experiences, your observations? My guess is that you
want to arrive at a more complete understanding of what you saw,
lived through and felt. You want to grow from the experience, or you
want your readers to think about something in a way they might never
have done before. Change.

This applies even to this article. I want to help writers discover
the real reason for writing, enable you to refocus your energies and
perhaps become more prolific and successful by understanding why you
do what you do. I hope I’ve succeeded in doing just that.

As a writer, you’ve got a talent that many do not possess, and many
admire. So don’t just sit there. Write for a change.

About the Author

Mary Anne Hahn is editor and publisher of WriteSuccess, the
free biweekly ezine of ideas, information and inspiration for writers. To
subscribe, mail to writesuccess-subscribe@yahoogroups.com. Learn how to
market your writing services to businesses and professionals right in your
own hometown. For more information, mail to local@writesuccess.org

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VIiruses, Terrorism, and Beliefs

November 17th, 2008

I have been swamped, deluged and inundated with people’s thoughts telling me they are frightened by the possibility of terrorist attacks. They are scared of airmail toxins, viruses and nuclear explosions ruining their health and jeopardizing their lives. I am telling you people I don’t do illnesses, only social diseases. My only answer to you is to have Faith. We will overcome adversity.

Speaking of social diseases, there is one that is causing quite a stir. On this I am definitely a non- expert expert. It is called the Ostrich Virus. It isn’t airborne, but this insidious social disease leap frogs from credit card to credit card, leaving their wealthy owners trembling in fear of losing their material possessions. If you want the cure stop worrying so much about your assets.

Are you in fear of losing your possessions? If so, you are just causing the virus to spread. Do you judge your accomplishments solely in monetary terms? Come alive my friends, having Faith will give you all the credit you need. There, don’t you feel more secure now? Doesn’t having Faith make you feel prosperous? You will if you just believe in God. Don’t you want to acquire a bunch of faith-based assets?

This is an excerpt from my book The Magic of Faith. To preview it just go to http://www.faith123.com

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How to Plan a Perfect Christening

November 17th, 2008

A Christening is a very special occasion, and is often considered a young child’s first big day. So most Parents will want to plan an occasion that is memorable and enjoyable for everyone. Here are just a few tips for planning the perfect Christening.

Set the Date
Make a list of preferred dates, and then check with the church or venue to ensure that they can accommodate those dates, as well as your requirements for the ceremony. Then check with your guests to find out their availability on those dates – particularly the guests who will be taking part in the ceremony (i.e.: Godparents). Try not to get things fully underway before checking that your planned date is suitable for everyone.

Meet the Vicar
If you are having the ceremony in Church, arrange to meet with the vicar. They will be able to tell you about their church and community, take you for a look around, and tell you how they normally conduct their ceremonies. This should help you to feel comfortable with the vicar and the church, and also help you to confirm whether the type of ceremony suits you. Meeting with the vicar is also a courtesy that they’ll appreciate.

Consider Making a Donation
Churches do not charge fees for Christenings, but do consider making a donation. Most Churches depend on financial gifts and collections from the community and those who use the church, so anything you can offer will be appreciated. After all, they will be welcoming your child into their community.

Photography and Filming
Always check your chosen church’s rules on photography and filming. Some churches decline photography and filming during the ceremony, but are happy for photographs outside after the ceremony. Some churches have their own list of preferred photographers and videographers, so do ask them. You can also consider a professional photographer for portraits outside the church (weather permitting!), or even a studio sitting, booked for a day after the Christening. It’s another reason to get dressed up!

God Parents
Make sure that your chosen Godparents are clear on their responsibilities, not just for the Christening day, but in their roles as your child’s Godparent. It is important that they know what will be required of them in the ceremony so that you will all feel comfortable. It is also a good way of finding out whether your chosen Godparents are likely to change their mind at the last minute!

Invite
You may wish to send out formal invitations to your Christening guests. If you plan to buy these in the shops, make sure that you’ll be able to find the design you want in adequate numbers. If you are planning to order handmade or personalised invitations for the event, be sure to order them in plenty of time to allow for proofs, last-minute changes and order delivery.

Be Practical
Of course, you’ll want your VIP to look fabulous on the day. Be sure to pick outfits that are both stylish and practical for your baby (view a gorgeous collection at www.beascreations.net), so they’ll look elegant while feeling contented and comfortable on their big day.

Keep your VIP happy
A Christening is much easier and more enjoyable when the guest of honour is content and able to enjoy the ceremony with your family and friends. Therefore, make sure you do all you can to keep your baby happy and comfortable in the lead up to the ceremony (nappy changes, times of feedings etc). Also, try to keep your baby in familiar arms for the main part of the ceremony, so that they will not become agitated or unsettled.

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These are just the main tips for organising a perfect Christening, and should ensure that a wonderful day is enjoyed by all.

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Bea’s Creations offers beautiful, handmade Christening outfits and accessories for children, as well as a wide selection of handmade birth announcement stationery and Christening invitations. Visit the website at http://www.beascreations.net.

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Europe Shrinks from Health-Religion Research

November 16th, 2008

Europe’s greatest continental divide the chasm between scientific research and theology has begun to close, as scores of university institutes and medical associations from Arkhangelsk to Zurich are gathering to see how the two fields might help each other. The movement, though, is at a glacial pace, as an increasingly secular Western Europe and a post-communist Eastern Europe continue to resist any efforts that smack of church and state collaboration.

Croatia’s University of Zagreb Medical School is typical. Candid discussions concerning religion and medical science take place but never in a formal research environment, said Lucija Fabijanic, a medical student who recently graduated from the school. “Some medical doctors do speak about this topic, but it is mainly not acknowledged by the university and hospital staff,” said Fabijanic. “From the medical point of view, I understand that after a long era of communism a lot of people still think that religion is something personal and that it has nothing to do with science and medicine.”

Similarly, in Sweden’s Karolinska Institutet, where 40 percent of the country’s medical academic research is conducted, religion and science are only rarely mentioned in the same breath. Of the 2,814 dissertations published since 1995, only half a dozen mention the words together, and only two a 2005 study on Islam’s perpetuation of female genital mutilation in Sudan, and a 2000 paper on mortality and injury rates in Northern and Western Europe look at religion with more than a passing glance.

Across Europe, empirical research has been conducted primarily in the areas of mental health and ethnography. In both cases, though, the research has taken place in isolated institutional pockets and with little academic or media fanfare.

Most European researchers, instead, host symposia, satisfied to conduct what is often among the first science-and-religion dialogues in their institution or country. In many instances, the discussions are funded by Metanexus Institute’s Local Societies Initiatives, or LSI. Metanexus, in turn, is funded by the John Templeton Foundation, which also funds Science & Theology News.

For example, Austria’s Universitt Innsbruck, an LSI grant recipient, has formed a society called The Complementarity of Science and Theology within the prestigious Austrian Academy of Science. The society, chaired by renowned mathematical physicist Walter Thirring, aims to study “the concept and meaning of life.” But to date it’s been all talk and no research.

The same holds true in former Soviet states. At Ukraine’s National University in Kharkiv, philosophy professor Ivan Tsekhmistro chairs a newly formed, and LSI-funded, East-Ukrainian Center of Science and Religion. Its charge, he said, is to eradicate communism’s legacy of “aggressive atheism in the public consciousness and in the sphere of interrelations between science and religion.” And while Tsekhmistro has written extensively on the subject in June delivering his most recent paper, Scientific Picture of the Word in the Last 25 Years, at the Metanexus Institute in Philadelphia the university center offers no empirical research.

Likewise, in 2002, Estonia’s University of Tartu founded the Collegium of Science and Religion to revive the “tradition of science and faith dialogue that was forgotten during half a century of imposed atheism,” according to its mission statement. The LSI-funded collegium has long-term plans to conduct empirical studies, but immediate plans only include seminars, colloquiums and college courses.

Given the centuries-old struggle between science and religion to define European culture, the research torpor is understandable, said Harald Walach, editor of Swiss research journal, Forschende Komplementrmedizin und Klassische Naturheilkunde (Research in Complementary and Classical Natural Medicine). “What has to be borne in mind historically is the fact that especially for Germany there are great fears of intellectuals and academics of the culture and the political stage being again hijacked by ideology, as happened during the Nazi regime,” said Walach. Indeed, Adolph Hitler insisted to the very end that his actions were inspired by providence. “Hence, the connotation of religion and any official institution, such as politics and academia, does not go down well in European culture, understandably so.”

That has certainly been true in the Netherlands, where academia often recoils from the authoritarian habits and influence of organized religion. “This criticism prevented the approval ofefforts to study the subject scientifically,” said Dr. Arjan Braam, a researcher at Vrije Universiteit, Amsterdam.

The criticism has softened noticeably in the Netherlands since the mid-1980s, thanks largely to the prolific Braam’s research. One of his oft-cited papers, published in 2004 in the Journal of Aging and Health, involves a six-year study of prayer and depressive symptoms in older Dutch adults. The study of 1,840 adults, aged 55 to 85, found that church attendance and religious inclinations eased the symptoms of depression. “The interest on the subject of religion and health is increasing, but slowly,” said Braam, who chaired a symposium on prayer and depressive symptoms, at the 13th World Congress of Psychiatry, held last September in Cairo, Egypt.

Also in the Netherlands, the Catholic Study Centre for Mental Health, acts as a clearinghouse for scientists conducting primary and secondary research on mental health and religion. Although founded in 1972, the lion’s share of its work has been done in the past five years. As of 2005, the Catholic center counted “more than 2,400 members and benefactors from mental and physical health care, spiritual and pastoral care, the churches, social services, and education,” according to its Web site.

Barriers are falling in Switzerland as well. For example, the University Hospital of Geneva recently investigated the importance of religion as a coping mechanism for psychiatric patients. The study found that clinicians dealing with psychotic patients might neglect religious issues, even if religion may constitute an important means of coping, said Sylvia Mohr, the hospital researcher who led the study. Half the clinicians’ perceptions of patients’ religious involvement were inaccurate, Mohr’s team found, even though a majority of the patients reported that religion was an important aspect of their lives.

Mohr’s biggest surprise, though, came before she interviewed the first patient: “Our research was welcomed,” she said. Mohr had anticipated stiff resistance, particularly from clinicians. Instead, the hospital and its ethics committee gave the study their blessing, and only 3 percent of the patients declined to participate. “From my experience, I think the most powerful resistance is in researchers’ minds,” she said.

And now that Mohr has overcome her resistance, what will it take to gain widespread European acceptance of such research? “The only way to change this is good science,” said Walach.

Kevin Ferguson is a freelance writer for Science & Theology News.

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BUILDING YOUR LIFE AROUND FRIENDS

November 13th, 2008

In everyone’s life, there are always times when we realise that we can’t stand alone. These are the times we turn to our friends. Georde Eliot said ‘ Friendship is an inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words.’ These friends are the ones who know our short comings and help us stand tall.

True friends are rare, their loss so painful. Our life is always governed by a sense of deep loss eachtime we loss a friend, we feel like we have lost a part of our life. Truly a friend can be one of the most precious thing in the world.

It was Woodrow Wilson who said ‘we should not only use all the brains we have, but all the brains that we can borrow.’ These borrowed brains are the friends we have built all through our lives. ” The world is so empty if one thinks only of mountains, rivers, and cities, but to know someone who thinks and feels with me, and who though distant is close to me in spirit. This makes the earth for me an inhabitable garden” ~ Von Goethe

I do not know how many good relationships you have put to flight, but the more you burn these boats after crossing over, you may need to go back someday. People should not be used as tools through which you get what you want. Don’t use people. John Craig said ” No matter how much work you can do, no matter how engaging your personality may be, you will not advance far in life if you can’t work with people.”

Making impact in the world is all about reaching out to lives. The only place to completely express yourself is in service. If you can’t serve people, then you can’t be a friend. Just as Albert Schweitzer said ” I do not know what your destiny will be, but one thing i know is the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve.

Even in Leadership, friendship counts. A leader never makes it alone, he belongs to a team. This team is made up of his friends. Bill Newman said ” it’s not how high you climb, but it’s how many people you are prepared to take with you.” We must work for the benefit of our friends.

HOW TO DEVELOP QUALITY FRIENDS :

– you must be optimistic about meeting the right people and be willing to see the good in them.

– you must have a positive personality, an optimistic person is one who sees a problem and be willing to help.

– in building good friends, you must be willing to give your everything to see your friendship succeed. It’s all about sacrifice. Someone said ” a friend is one who’s always there when there’s every reason for him not to be.” So keep your friends vision ahead and help them realise it.

– Be willing to see the Lord as our best friend. He knows our deepest secrets, your soft spots He said ”I WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU.” So folks what else do we need if the Lord is for us ? ….. Have a blessed week ahead and see you there !

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