One of the main keys to success in life is to get rid of our silly belief in “someday.”

You know, the sentence that starts with “someday I’ll………..

get in better shape

spend more time with my family

lose weight

take the kids to Disney

get more organized

start my own business

(fill in the blank).”

Just make sure you fill in the blank with something you never want to see happen, because here comes the bad news – someday never comes.

A really nice way to get your head around the notion that someday never comes is to grab a calendar and take a look at the days of the week. Let’s see, my calendar has:

Monday – For those of us you love what we do, a pretty cool day. For the “Garfields” out there, not such a great day.

Tuesday – “Sic transit gloria mundi– Tuesday is usually worse.” – Starman Jones

Wednesday – Hump day and all that.

Thursday – Good TV night.

Friday – TGIF.

Saturday – Sleep late.

Sunday – Used to be a day of rest. Rinse and repeat.

If you review the above list, you’ll notice that you just can’t find Someday anywhere. So not only does someday never come, it doesn’t even exist!

So what do we do? After getting rid of the notion of someday, here’s a 4-step plan to turn your somedays into something real.

1. Set a goal

Pick something that up until now you have said you will do “someday.” This answers the question “What do I want?”

Let’s say you want to get into better shape by exercising for 30 minutes or more a day, five times a week. After choosing your goal, next you……

2. Turn your someday into one day

A goal is just a wish (a someday) with a deadline.” To turn your someday into one day, you want to set a target date. This answers the question “When do I want it?”

In our example, you can say that 90 days from now, you will be exercising 30 minutes or more a day, five times a week. At this point it’s helpful to do two things:

write your goal down and keep it somewhere that you can be reminded of it each day

share your goal with someone else who will hold you accountable.

3. Commit to small daily actions

Most large goals are accomplished through small daily actions repeated over time. This answers the question “When am I going to do this?”

Many people give up on their goals because they seem too large or will take too long. Here’s where you narrow your focus – for our example, it’s saying “Just for today I will exercise for at least 30 minutes.” For just right now, for today only, it does’t matter what you did yesterday, and it doesn’t matter what you will do tomorrow. “Today I will!”

4. Take at least one immediate action

This is such a powerful yet little used trick. Whenever you decide to set a goal, before you leave the scene of that decision take at least one concrete action toward your goal.

This answers the question “When will I get started?” with RIGHT NOW! This gets you started right away, allows you to experience some immediate success and builds momentum.

In our example, you could begin exercising immediately, or call and schedule an appointment with your doctor, a fitness coach, or to check out the local health club.

Following these four steps allows you to do something that surprisingly few people ever get to do:

turn your someday into one day and soon one day will be today!

Thanks for reading, and keep the change!

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Often times we procrastinate because it just seems like so much WORK to get what we want! We just don’t feel like the rewards justify everything that needs to be done to obtain those goals.

Other times we procrastinate because we feel like we can’t have what we really want so we settle for something less than we truly deserve.

Life should be and CAN be fun!

Take a moment, close your eyes and think about what it is that you truly want. Then ask yourself WHY you want it. Then ask yourself again, what is it that you REALLY, REALLY want?

Repeat this process until you’ve found what it is that you really want out of life. You’ll know you’ve found it when you have some physical reaction in your body (i.e. – excitement, butterflies, changes in breathing).

When you find what it is that you really want, nothing will be able to keep you from it. Nothing will stand in your way from getting it.

Here’s another exercise to figure out what you really want.

Imagine yourself in your new job.

What company are you working for?

Who is around you?

What are you doing?

What can you hear? see? feel?

Vividly picture what it is that you truly want out of life.

Imagine yourself with more money.

What does your house look like?

Walk in the door! What do you see? hear? feel?

Now, go get what you really want!

Amanda resides in Orlando, FL with her husband and three daughters. As a life and business coach, she coaches people who are starting new businesses and people who already own a business yet want to grow those businesses to new heights. She specializes in home and online based businesses. Visit her website at http://www.vifluxity.com to learn more.

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